I have the best friends! Facebook is not one of them.

Thursday was hard for me. It was therapy day so I got to talk about some of the things I am doing, things that are bothering me, and how I am going to be a nomadic hermit. Is that a thing? Because I feel like I could make that a thing.

Then I got home and exhaustion hit again. I slept some more. Got up feeling all emotional and went to Facebook to see anything happy. Here is a list of people I follow and why:

  • Sister-in-laws and brothers raising their babies
  • Friends raising their kids.
  • Sisters and brothers because I love seeing what fun stuff is going on in their lives.
  • My mom because she is super awesome!
  • My nieces and nephews (all 300 kajillion of them) who are adults now because it is fun to see the people they are growing into.
  • A friend I have known since I was 13 post about her cats (I love cats!) and her son.
  • Various family members for their blogs, positivity, fun posts, happy quotes, etc.
  • A friend who updates on her friend’s babies health struggles. I follow the friend and the child’s family life story as it unfolds.
  • ProBlogger because he is inspiring.
  • Friends around town because I like to see what they are up to and usually it’s positive.
  • Cracked.com because… comedy! And I am officially a “Purveyor of Dick Jokes” on their site.
  • Cabinet Peaks Medical Center and other places around town because I want to feel connected to my community.

So I hop onto Facebook and what do I see in my news feed? Not one positive thing at all. Every post was racist, homophobic, xenophobic, misogynistic, and flat out mean spirited. I tried adjusting my news feed to “most recent” and got the same posts. I scrolled down until the posts started repeating. I refreshed the page. Nope, still the same freaking posts. Here is a sample of what they were:

  • A post about how horrible gay people are with a comment about how he should have been allowed to finish the job. (I am bisexual. This was beyond offensive.)
  • A post about a stabbing in another country.
  • A post about how we need to ban knives if we are going to ban guns.
  • A post about the evils of transgender people.
  • An argument between to grown-ass men about whether an AR-15 is an assault weapon or not; and whether it should be banned or if families should be allowed to own one for hunting and protection… complete with name calling.
  • A post about how Trump is right and will fix all this by kicking all the (I forget who but I think it was Muslims) out of the country.

It just kept going and seemed to get worse the further down I went. Not one update about family, friends, humor columns, blog writing, cats, loving people, gay pride, etc. Nothing. Not one damned positive thing. I had to go to specific profile pages to see anything positive and when I returned to the news feed, it was the same hateful diatribe that it was before.

I ended up thinking to myself that I needed to just get off of there and do something else. But first, I posted this status update


What happened next?

I worked on a post when a chrome notification popped up that a cousin had replied to my post. I thought, “Well, it’s my post… so I’ll go look.” We chatted for a few rounds and went back to the post.

I saw another notification pop up and it is someone who is really funny. He replied to my post. I had to see what funny thing he posted and this is what he left.

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I laughed so hard! Thank you, Zack! I can always count on you to make me laugh.

Then I started getting tagged in various post comments around Facebook. Space things, beautiful pictures, inspiring stories, and a hilarious video of round animals. Along with this comment posted to the status.

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Someone else sent me private messages about her health update and it was super positive! Then we sent GIF animations to each other, getting sillier and sillier as time went on.

My mom sent a happy meme that made me smile…

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And I had someone text me privately to make sure I was okay.

I can’t tell you how much that all meant to me. You guys are all so awesome. I have the best support network.

About an hour later, my news feed was back to how it usually is. Some happy, some funny, some hateful, some gay pride, some babies, some love, some silly pictures, and everything looked great.

Was this another Facebook experiment?

Knowing that Facebook has done experiments on their users before, I have to wonder if this wasn’t some fucked up Facebook experiment. Things like this is why I am starting to steer clear of Facebook.

If this is some Facebook experiment, they are seriously fucked up for doing shit like this to people who suffer from depression, anxiety, and mood disorders. Are they trying to coax people into killing themselves?

I am not suicidal… but let’s say someone was suicidal and they logged onto Facebook for support, looking for something to cheer them up, and give them a reason to live. And let’s pretend that they logged in during a particularly hateful news feed spread like what I experienced.

Who’s to say that isn’t the last straw that pushes them over the edge and makes them actually kill themselves?

As for me?

My mental health is too precious for me. I will go on Facebook a couple times a day but I won’t be on as much. I can’t handle it. If Facebook would quit treating people like lab rats, then I would consider being more active. Until then, I have to protect myself.

Share Naughty Stuff On Facebook Without Your Clients Seeing It. (With pictures)

Ever want to share a funny meme you saw but you don’t want to run off your clientele? My cousin has just that issue so, I decided to make this walk through on how to make a list on Facebook. This is also a 50 Questions post but the title was long enough as it is.

What is a Facebook List?

Here is the explanation from Facebook Help Center:

Lists are a way to organize things on Facebook, like your friends or the things you’re interested in. You can use lists to filter the stories you see in your News Feed or post an update for specific people, like your coworkers or friends who live near you.

In addition to any lists you create, you’ll also see smart lists. Smart lists create themselves and automatically stay up-to-date based on profile information you and your friends have in common

Enough of that, let’s get started on making a list!

How to make a list

When you are on your main Facebook page, look down the left hand side of the page for something that looks like this. Yours won’t say Libby Friends. It will probably have something else.


If you scroll over it, you will see a “more” come up. It will look like this.


Click on that and you will end up with a list that looks something like this.

Facebook lists

At the top of that page is a “create list” button. Click on that

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That’s what it looks like. Now name your list. I picked “pervs like me” just to be funny. Now populate your list with friends who are pervs like you… or people who would not care if you posted a dirty joke or a cuss word or naked pictures of yourself or whatever you think they would dig. And click create.


Now you will have a list of friends that are pervs like you! You’ll see just their posts once the list is made. If you go to Facebook, it will take you to everyone. Don’t worry. You can still post for everyone. It even has suggestions on the side for people you might like to add, just in case you forgot some pervy friend.

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Let’s make a post!

Now that you have your victims all added to the list, time to post something for them. When you go to post something on your regular news feed it looks like this.

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When you click on “friends” or “public”, it will have a drop down with “More Options”. Pick that.

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You will have a list of your Facebook friends lists. Pick “pervs like me” or whatever you named your new list.

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Or make your family gasp and pick them instead. Now when you post it will show only to that group of friends/ family/ perverts/ co-workers or whoever you want to make a list for!

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Just remember to click the box and change it back to friends or public before you decide to post something safe for the general public.

I am working on how to do this on the facebook app too. I’ll get a post up as soon as I figure that one out.

Positive Post: Free Coffee

I was trying to think of something positive to post today and I just thought of it. I was watching two ladies on Facebook. They are setting up a new café here in town. I saw the pictures and posted that I would have to come down and check it out when they are open. They said to come on down, they are open! So, I posted that I would have to find the money for a coffee and would walk down there to check it out. They said if I come down, they will buy me a coffee. I am going to pay this one forward one day! But for today’s positive post:

Free Coffee!

That’s one positive thing!